A number of years ago, a friend of mine at the time had obviously bought a new pair of shoes and she proudly wore them to an event we attended. I initially had not noticed her shiny new shows and I would imagine she was growing increasingly impatient with no one making a comment on how pretty they were. Finally, when she couldn’t take it anymore, she asked, “Do you like my new shoes?” I thought it a little strange that she would need validation for her shoes. Her admiration of her purchase was not enough. She needed the confirmation from another person that she had made the right decision in purchasing those shoes.
I’m sure each of us has looked for validation from others over the course of our lives. Children need validation and approval from their parents in order to gain a level of confidence in their lives. Employees look for validation from their employers to ensure they are on the right course with their careers! Performers look for validation from the audience as a way to gauge their performance.
What happens when we don’t receive this validation? Do we begin to question the value we bring to a situation? Do we begin to question our talent? The Bible speaks of a time in King David’s life when a situation arose during one of his battles. While he and his men were off fighting war, the enemy captured their wives and children. When they returned from battle and discovered what had happened, they wept until, the Bible states, “they had no more tears left to weep. At this point, David’s men became angry and conspired to stone him. I would imagine they blamed him for the calamity that had occurred in their lives. The Bible goes on to say that during this time, David encouraged himself in the Lord.
You see, even though we don’t always have someone to inspire or encourage us, we know that we can ALWAYS find encouragement in the word of God. God said in his word that He would NEVER leave us nor forsake us! He says that He knows the plans that He has for us, plans to prosper us and not to harm us. His plans will bring about His expected end in our lives.
If you have someone in your life that acts as a support and encourager, praise God for that person or people. However, if you find that those channels of inspiration are closed for you, take heart! God hasn’t forgotten about you and we can ALWAYS find comfort and encouragement in His word!